Operative word: went. Past tense. Because I now realize how foolish I was to pin my hopes on something totally fleeting, and how naive it was for me to expect things would blossom into something wonderfully concrete. You just underwent a life-changing rebirth, and I didn’t exactly know what I wanted. Not the most encouraging combination.
Into the abyss I went. Epic fail.
Into the abyss I went. Epic fail.
If this didn’t happen to me, I could almost say it’s comical. Something that How I Met Your Mother would totally be on-board with. The episode would go something like this: after breaking up with, say, Stella, Ted Mosby meets Persephone Matthews, a girl he absolutely adored way back when they were in primary school. He chats her up through text and what-not, but realizes soon enough that Persephone is not interested in him. Their only connection is their experience in grade school, and that is simply not enough. Still, Ted yearns for her but he does not understand why. Fast forward to a scene “2 YEARS LATER” and Ted meets Janine Matherson, and he becomes obsessed. Janine is everything that he has hoped his ideal girl would be: beautiful, smart, and charming. Unfortunately, Janine is just being polite and not really interested in him. Still, the obsession remains, and will remain for quite some time. Cut to a scene in the “PRESENT DAY” and Ted has just recovered from his Janine obsession. This is when, in perfect comedic timing, Kirstie Rogue comes along. Kirstie is a college crush. If Janine was someone he thought would be perfect for him as a girlfriend, Kirstie was Mother material. But as these things go for Ted, Kirstie is not really interested, eschewing a chance at love for a life of partying and boys. Inexplicably, Ted trudges on. The episode ends with more heartbreak for our hero, and another opportunity for the show to screw the audience with red herrings as to the identity of the elusive Mother.
But before the episode truly ends, a realization (probably delivered most convincingly by Lily): “Ted. I get it. You’re totally obsessed with women you know you can’t have. Persephone, Janine, Kirstie– all these girls, you know they don’t really like you, and still you persevere. You don’t really like them for them. The moment they like you back, this obsession will end, and you’ll start yearning for someone else.”
“That can’t be true,” Ted stammers. “I really liked them.”
“Yes, but only for the challenge that they pose. Listen to me, you have to get over it. You have to nip this obsession in the bud. Because if you don’t, you’ll only end up brainwashing yourself even more into liking them. The obsession will not stop.”
And then it hits Ted: Lily was right. But what Lily did not say was this: was he so afraid of committing to a serious relationship that he’s so eager to chase after people he knows will reject him? In the same manner, was he so afraid of committing to a serious relationship that he’s so eager to ignore the people who actually likes him, and he might actually like back?